In less than 24 hours, I've received three separate emails saying, "If the Law of Attraction isn't working for you, here's the answer." But is it? How many answers can there be?
I don’t have to tell you how many great people there are offering books, products, and services about the Law of Attraction. And I have to say, I appreciate them all. They’re awesome people and provide remarkable information; and there have been times when what they provide came to me at just the exact moment I needed it. However . . .
Nod your head if you know what the “however” is . . . Why doesn’t it always work for Me? It’s a question shared by many.
Some manifestations are easy-peasy, aren’t they? Some aren’t. Even though you practice patience, trust right timing, affirm out the wazoo, hold your fingers a certain way, burn a candle and utter incantations, follow any and every technique . . . there’s a moment when you ask, “What the heck is going on?” only maybe you don’t say “heck.”
The Law of Attraction works. You know this. It’s those darned limiting beliefs that are stopping you from getting what you want in certain matters. Some are immediately obvious, some are not. It’s the ones that are not that hold you back. I faced this one myself when I had the feeling there was a metaphoric switch that needed to be flipped regarding one particularly stubborn-seeming area of my life.
The realization came to me that using the Law of Attraction is like finding the right diet or way of eating that works for you. You know that some people follow a plan and they drop the weight. You follow the plan and either not much happens or you gain. Why? You’re a unique individual. Maybe your body metabolizes the recommended food items differently, or you don’t even know you’re sensitive to certain ones. The common theme or thread is that an eating plan right for you will work.
It’s the same with the Law of Attraction. Maybe what would assist you is to discover which individual beliefs or triggers are buried so deep that you can’t see them, but you definitely feel and live the outcomes they create no matter how exactly you follow someone’s steps.
One way to do this is to ask the right questions rather than immediately look for the right answers. If the answers were obvious, you’d know them already.
If you feel stuck right now, a good exercise as a first step is to write down every expectation from others that may be attached to your energy . . . from family members and childhood to friends and associates in your life now. You’ll probably notice how some of these expectations contradict each other. You may realize that the only person you haven’t heard from or listened to about what you’re “supposed” to do in every area of your life (to create your personally fulfilling life) is you.
When the time is appropriate, take several minutes to do this exercise. See what comes up. The only reason someone doesn’t have the life they truly desire is because something at the inner level stops them from having it. Maybe it’s time to call it out, call it what it is, and find your appropriate way to go beyond it.
One thing I’d like to encourage you to do is stop thinking you must once and for all Get It Right, otherwise known as the Perfection Infection. You are a process. Your life is a process. Learning, growing, and expanding into who you are and desire to be is a process. If you not only make peace with the process, but make it your soulmate, you’ll feel stronger and more self-empowered than you’ve ever imagined possible.
Joyce Shafer (jls1422@yahoo.com) is a Life Empowerment Coach and author of I Don’t Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say and How to Have What You REALLY Want (lulu.com). If you’re ready to discover how to make the Law of Attraction work for you as a unique individual (and get in on the coaching special available until July 30), visit http://www.freewebs.com/coach4lifebalance
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Thursday, July 24, 2008
Monday, July 21, 2008
Law of Attraction: I’m Good at the Small Stuff
Maybe you’ve attracted some interesting items, people, or events into your life, but some of what you want is giving you a challenge. What’s different?
If you’ve used the Law of Attraction, you probably have had some good results with some of the smaller things, but some of the bigger ones are presenting challenges to you. Have you asked yourself what’s different?
I reflected on this because I’ve wished for some things and what I got was even better than I’d imagined (and some never manifested, thank goodness!). There was the time I finished reading my last paperback novel and thought, “I need more novels.” The next day, I found around 100 novels on the table in the laundry room of my building. Forty-five books came home with me. And there was the time I glanced at the corner of my apartment in the pre-war building I live in and thought, “I want a lamp for that corner, and I want it to go with the building’s architecture.” A few hours later, I found a lamp from the 1930s in perfect working order in the basement. I could keep going with a long list of things, people, and resources that took anywhere from a few minutes to a year to reach me.
One difference I found was the energy attached to the thought. Now, any of us who’ve read any material or watched any movies about the Law of Attraction know that the deepest feeling belief we hold is what we attract. This is the key, of course.
When I thought about things I wanted, it was like saying, “I see a lamp in that corner” or “I see more novels waiting on that shelf for me to read them.” I had intention, and I had no emotions attached to getting anything. I just knew I would. No thought went into, “Where am I going to look for that, how much will it cost to get it” . . . I basically stated I was going to have it. I didn’t even commit myself to shopping for these things as part of the process, though I would have been willing to do this.
This detachment didn’t limit the amazing ability of the Universe or quantum field that responds to us in any way. It allowed the Universe to provide and provide quickly, easily, and with items, people, and resources even better than I’d imagined.
What happens when we think about attracting more money or the intimate, committed relationship we choose to have? Did you feel the emotional surge when you read that last sentence? It’s called attachment. It comes from a sense of lack, a need to fix or change, and this puts a choke-hold on your cosmic manifestation team because these emotional attachments have a greater energy than your intention to have whatever it is you choose to have.
So how do you flip this? Ask yourself if your hand can hold more water if it’s clinched or if it’s open. It’s the same with our emotional energy. Picture something that you choose to add to your life right this moment. Every time you feel any doubt about getting it or any negativity about deserving it, see your hand clinched in front of a stream of pure water. Take some deep breaths and remind yourself you can quench your thirst only if your hand is open and cupped so it can receive water. See your limiting beliefs and emotions in the same way.
You may have to work with this more than once because of programmed behaviors about how you’re “supposed” to act when you want or need something. Everything you’re experiencing at this moment is the direct result of a belief you hold and a choice you’ve made. Pause right now and realize what this says about how powerful you actually are.
Power is not nervous, anxious, fretful, or distraught. Power is inspired and intentional. It pays attention to opportunities; and when an action feels appropriate, it moves forward.
Remember that some of what we call to us, even subconsciously, we do so to help us learn and grow. A problematic or challenging situation or person showing up for us is not a sign of failure. In fact, it’s a sign of success. If we focus more on what we can learn about ourselves and how we can expand more into who we are rather than what’s going on, we can recognize this as the mastery it is.
One last bit: There is no “small” or “large” in the Law of Attraction. Anything and everything you attract is a miracle, an affirmation of your ability to create. Celebrate all of them.
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach (iPEC) and published writer. Discover if you’re ready to create more life balance through the power of Law of Attraction coaching. Learn about Joyce’s coaching special available for the first 15 people ready to go at http://www.freewebs.com/coach4lifebalance
If you’ve used the Law of Attraction, you probably have had some good results with some of the smaller things, but some of the bigger ones are presenting challenges to you. Have you asked yourself what’s different?
I reflected on this because I’ve wished for some things and what I got was even better than I’d imagined (and some never manifested, thank goodness!). There was the time I finished reading my last paperback novel and thought, “I need more novels.” The next day, I found around 100 novels on the table in the laundry room of my building. Forty-five books came home with me. And there was the time I glanced at the corner of my apartment in the pre-war building I live in and thought, “I want a lamp for that corner, and I want it to go with the building’s architecture.” A few hours later, I found a lamp from the 1930s in perfect working order in the basement. I could keep going with a long list of things, people, and resources that took anywhere from a few minutes to a year to reach me.
One difference I found was the energy attached to the thought. Now, any of us who’ve read any material or watched any movies about the Law of Attraction know that the deepest feeling belief we hold is what we attract. This is the key, of course.
When I thought about things I wanted, it was like saying, “I see a lamp in that corner” or “I see more novels waiting on that shelf for me to read them.” I had intention, and I had no emotions attached to getting anything. I just knew I would. No thought went into, “Where am I going to look for that, how much will it cost to get it” . . . I basically stated I was going to have it. I didn’t even commit myself to shopping for these things as part of the process, though I would have been willing to do this.
This detachment didn’t limit the amazing ability of the Universe or quantum field that responds to us in any way. It allowed the Universe to provide and provide quickly, easily, and with items, people, and resources even better than I’d imagined.
What happens when we think about attracting more money or the intimate, committed relationship we choose to have? Did you feel the emotional surge when you read that last sentence? It’s called attachment. It comes from a sense of lack, a need to fix or change, and this puts a choke-hold on your cosmic manifestation team because these emotional attachments have a greater energy than your intention to have whatever it is you choose to have.
So how do you flip this? Ask yourself if your hand can hold more water if it’s clinched or if it’s open. It’s the same with our emotional energy. Picture something that you choose to add to your life right this moment. Every time you feel any doubt about getting it or any negativity about deserving it, see your hand clinched in front of a stream of pure water. Take some deep breaths and remind yourself you can quench your thirst only if your hand is open and cupped so it can receive water. See your limiting beliefs and emotions in the same way.
You may have to work with this more than once because of programmed behaviors about how you’re “supposed” to act when you want or need something. Everything you’re experiencing at this moment is the direct result of a belief you hold and a choice you’ve made. Pause right now and realize what this says about how powerful you actually are.
Power is not nervous, anxious, fretful, or distraught. Power is inspired and intentional. It pays attention to opportunities; and when an action feels appropriate, it moves forward.
Remember that some of what we call to us, even subconsciously, we do so to help us learn and grow. A problematic or challenging situation or person showing up for us is not a sign of failure. In fact, it’s a sign of success. If we focus more on what we can learn about ourselves and how we can expand more into who we are rather than what’s going on, we can recognize this as the mastery it is.
One last bit: There is no “small” or “large” in the Law of Attraction. Anything and everything you attract is a miracle, an affirmation of your ability to create. Celebrate all of them.
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach (iPEC) and published writer. Discover if you’re ready to create more life balance through the power of Law of Attraction coaching. Learn about Joyce’s coaching special available for the first 15 people ready to go at http://www.freewebs.com/coach4lifebalance
Monday, July 14, 2008
A Life of Your Choosing
Choice: many of us feel we have lots of them; some feel they have little or no choice in one or more areas of their lives.
“The greatest gift Life could have made to you is yourself. You are a spontaneous, self-choosing center of Life, in the great drama of being, the great joy of becoming, the certainty of eternal expansion.” [Unknown]
Everything we think, say, feel, and do (or don’t) is a choice.
The moment we recognize the value of this, we can choose to be more conscious about our choices.
In love relationships or any other area of life, staying where you aren’t “fed” is like starving in a banquet hall filled with food. When you go to a banquet, no one makes you eat. When and what you partake of is your choice. How is this metaphoric scenario any different from life?
Everything we’re experiencing in our lives right this moment is the result of a choice, whether it included action or perceived inaction. When we don’t like our outcomes, we have the power to shift future outcomes at either the inner or outer levels, or both.
If you’re one who works with the Law of Attraction or any other form of quantum-thinking system, it can take a while to switch from focusing attention on what you no longer want, or believe needs fixing or changing, to what you desire to expand more of into your life, and how you choose to feel.
The key to the greatest energy or power in this is to realize you can choose how to feel in any moment. You really can. I’m not saying it’s necessarily easy, but you can do it. This includes choosing to feel as bad as you feel you need to for as long as you feel the need to. Honoring your feelings is not a flaw. Emotional pain happens as a part of life. How you choose to suffer and for how long is up to you (usually long past the event for many).
It’s remarkable what can happen when you make a choice about what you prefer and figure out which appropriate action will move you forward to your desired outcome. For one thing, it takes your emotionally-charged focus off of where it doesn’t belong . . . what you don’t like or judge as not good (or the past), and puts it where it can do the most good . . . on what you wish to create more of in your life.
Perhaps it’s time to recognize exactly how much power you really have in your life, and live it.
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach and published writer. Discover if you’re ready to create more life balance and fulfillment through the power of coaching. http://www.freewebs.com/coach4lifebalance
“The greatest gift Life could have made to you is yourself. You are a spontaneous, self-choosing center of Life, in the great drama of being, the great joy of becoming, the certainty of eternal expansion.” [Unknown]
Everything we think, say, feel, and do (or don’t) is a choice.
The moment we recognize the value of this, we can choose to be more conscious about our choices.
In love relationships or any other area of life, staying where you aren’t “fed” is like starving in a banquet hall filled with food. When you go to a banquet, no one makes you eat. When and what you partake of is your choice. How is this metaphoric scenario any different from life?
Everything we’re experiencing in our lives right this moment is the result of a choice, whether it included action or perceived inaction. When we don’t like our outcomes, we have the power to shift future outcomes at either the inner or outer levels, or both.
If you’re one who works with the Law of Attraction or any other form of quantum-thinking system, it can take a while to switch from focusing attention on what you no longer want, or believe needs fixing or changing, to what you desire to expand more of into your life, and how you choose to feel.
The key to the greatest energy or power in this is to realize you can choose how to feel in any moment. You really can. I’m not saying it’s necessarily easy, but you can do it. This includes choosing to feel as bad as you feel you need to for as long as you feel the need to. Honoring your feelings is not a flaw. Emotional pain happens as a part of life. How you choose to suffer and for how long is up to you (usually long past the event for many).
It’s remarkable what can happen when you make a choice about what you prefer and figure out which appropriate action will move you forward to your desired outcome. For one thing, it takes your emotionally-charged focus off of where it doesn’t belong . . . what you don’t like or judge as not good (or the past), and puts it where it can do the most good . . . on what you wish to create more of in your life.
Perhaps it’s time to recognize exactly how much power you really have in your life, and live it.
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach and published writer. Discover if you’re ready to create more life balance and fulfillment through the power of coaching. http://www.freewebs.com/coach4lifebalance
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